Wednesday, April 7, 2010


One morning, just before my birthday, when I had to work the 6 am shift at work, I spent some time making up a very special list.
A list of:
20 Things to Do Before I'm 21.
(I actually got this idea from Elsie of Red Velvet Art, and I think it's a great one!)
I don't have the book that contains the list on me right now, so I can't share it all.
But one very important item on this list was:

To get back in contact with my biological father.

I haven't seen him since I was about 9 years old.
The last time I was ever contacted by him I was 12 years old, and it was a birthday card.
And before that, I have very few memories of him.
Just little things here and there.
He and my mom divorced when I was just a little baby.

I do have a "Dad" in my life, and that's a huge blessing.
He's been there for me since I was five years old.
But I've naturally been curious about my "father" since basically forever.
I've wanted to contact him for a long time, but wasn't really sure how.
And if I figured out how, I wasn't really sure what I'd do or say.
What if he didn't want to hear from me?
What if he rejected me?
Obvious fears.

But I told myself that this would be the year that I did it.
Surprisingly, it turned out that it wouldn't be me taking the first step.
It wasn't him, either.

On Easter Sunday, via facebook, I received a message from a woman named Josephine.
She was looking for her niece and that was me.
She told me some family history and about my father.
He lives in North Carolina.
He's been married for 11 years.
He has two young sons, named River and Austin.
He'll be getting his bachelor's degree this year in Ceramics and Clay.
She told me that she knew if he heard from me it would "make him the happiest man on earth."
I hope that's true.

This is such a big thing for me.
And I just had to share it with you all.
I'll definitely be updating about this, here and there. :)


  1. That is so exciting and such a blessing!
    so happy for youuu! :D :D :D

  2. aww! lydia! that is soo exciting! i am so happy for you! i can't wait to hear more about it!!

  3. aww how exciting!!! i hope it all turns out for the best :)

  4. oh wow that is amazing! I hope everything works out! Good luck with that!

  5. oh my goodness, oh my goodness. this is seriously amazing! I hope everything works out wonderfully between you and your biological dad. tons and tons of luck floating your way from me!

  6. HOW EXCITING. I met my biological father for the first time when I was 18 and I had tons of fears too. Just don't expect too much, but Im sure you wont be disappointed =) good luck!!

  7. wow wow wow! what an incredible opportunity!! best of luck to you and i hope it's wonderful!

    on a semi-related note... i've always been curious about my grandma and step-grandpa. they were killed when i was six months old. about a year ago, i googled my grandma's name and someone had posted something a week prior to that about how my grandma was her most influential teacher ever. they kept in contact after this lady graduated high school via snail mail and the last letter my grandma ever sent her had my name in it!! it was very cool to make that connection. you are very lucky you still have the chance to contact the one you are missing! very excited for you!

  8. Yay!!! That is so exciting!! I hope everything goes superduper awesome for you!!

  9. Im so happy to hear that, hope everything works out beautifully. Its my first time coming to your blog, and im glad i had that chance! Lots of love!

  10. How neat! You just gained an aunt and two brothers. And that's very intriguing about your dad's degree--it sounds like he's a artist at heart. And now you have a big ol' green light to contact him. I'm so excited for you. I hope it's everything you dream it will be :)

  11. Thanks for all the wonderful encouragement. :)
    you guys are seriously the best.
    I'm still quite nervous and not sure of what to say, but I'm sure that will come in time.

  12. that is SO COOL. i'm so glad that happened. and good luck with your father! i'm really confident that it will go well. good job! you're on your way to becoming 21! and good job, to take the initiative to make that list. that'll be awesome...i should do it too!


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